I do not take whatever we do in Church for granted including “Church Wedding”… But we must also free the conscience of those who didn’t do “church wedding” before consummating their marriage.
I have been approached by people who are full of guilt for living together after trad. Should I tell them “God doesn’t recognize their marriage”? I would be lying.
I know a lot of believers who live in guilt because they didn’t do “Church wedding” and have been denied of “Child dedication” and so on…
I know couples who wedded some years later with kids. The simple reason they wedded was that “Church didn’t recognise that they are married”.
I am in no way bringing on a debate, I am only communicating my own convictions which I also believe is what is obtainable in the word as far as I know (I am open to learning).
I also know sound churches that have freed the conscience of their members by acknowledging that once one fulfills the demand of the parents, they are married and if they wish, they can approach the congregation for their blessings and good wishes.
For some people, meeting the demands of having three weddings is heavy no matter how much we try to make it minimal… To do “Church Wedding”, two things must be done “Trad and registry”, the the third is added… It’s heavy for some people who are ready for marriage but not ready to meet all three.
Not many people will be bold to say this but in their hearts they know that this is the truth.